Why is forgiving so difficult?

Being angry with someone is empowering. It makes us feel in control when someone has hurt us. When we let anger go, we not  only feel empty but we feel powerless. Every person who has been seriously abused has control issues. If we are in control of something, even our anger, we feel we may have a chance to survive the abuse. The hard part is learning that the anger hurts us and we can be in control without hurting ourselves or others.

It has been that unresolved issue from the past which can cause us feeling very exhausted and feeling weak because the anger people keep holding to require a lot of energy. Each time you think about it, worry about it talk about it, or just feel badly about it you are using a lot of energy. There are a lot of people who are wasting all of this energy by staying angry for years. According to Joyce Meyers to not forgive is like taking poison but hoping the other person will die because of it. Anger and unforgiveness destroys your life – not the person with whom you are angry. Your unforgiveness doesn’t bother them at all. When you forgive, you do it for yourself – not the other person!

Joyce Meyers says there are seven reasons why we should forgive.

1. Because God says to! (We really don’t need another reason. This is the most important one.)

2. Faith doesn’t work if you don’t. ( Not only can we not love other people with unforgiveness in our hearts, we can’t truly God.)

3. When there is unforgiveness the inner man is spiritually dirty.

4.Unforgiveness causes torture in your life. (The spirit has been poisoned and depression can begin.)

5. It blocks your personal relationship with God.

6. You can’t love with unforgiveness in your heart. (Love is the greatest weapon of spiritual warfare.)

7. You open the door to the devil when you harbor unforgiveness.

Who have you been angry with? Who do you need to forgive?